Finding My Dom

After a long search, I have found my Dom.

I searched high and low on bad sites like CollarMe, BDSMSingles and good sites like Alt.com.  I screened numerous Doms that started out well enough but didn't match in time or place.  I read messages from a plethora of others that know nothing about Domination versus abuse...girls beware - there are a lot of guys not looking to train but just abuse...before finally finding the One to whom I've committed my trust, my training and my collar.

We started by exchanging a few messages on the adult personals website, ALT.com. It wasn't until a long period of talking anonymously that we finally arranged a date to meet.  Right away, I could tell there was something different about him.  He was confident almost - bordering on but never going over to - cocky.  He was intelligent.  He was calm...and he was experienced.

He told me 'discovered' his Dom side about four years prior.  He was dating a girl that was a professional, in her daily life, but submissive in their bedroom behavior.  He told me that he had always known he was an 'aggressive' lover - enjoying rough sex - but until he met one that was overtly submissive (rather than passive) he didn't discover that he was Dominant.  We talked for a long period - about his experiences, his training and his life - and I knew I had to know more.  We spoke further throughout the next week before we agreed to meet for a trial 'session'.  It wasn't so much a Dom/sub encounter as it was a natural, sexually-charged and sexually-stimulating evening.  He took me aggressively and our sex seemed natural.  It was then, and only then, that I knew....I had found my one.

I look forward to sharing this journey with my first true Dom and sharing my journey within these writings.